Why You Don’t Need to “Get in Shape” for Summer

A Personal Reflection

In my younger years, I wanted nothing more than to look like my role models. I was convinced that life would be better—easier, happier—if I just looked a certain way. Like so many others, I bought into the belief that achieving the ideal body was the ticket to happiness.

But over the years, I’ve learned something that changed everything. I’ve found a lifestyle that’s sustainable and truly feels good. I no longer work out to change my body—I work out because it makes me feel good. I eat food that nourishes both body and soul. And most importantly: I’ve built a sense of self-worth that doesn’t waver in front of a mirror.

What Do You Really Want to Remember About Summer?

For many, summer is associated with sunshine, swimming—and unfortunately, pressure. The pressure to look a certain way. To “get in shape,” to be “fit,” to wear a bikini without shame. But what if we let that go for a moment? What if we focused instead on feeling good, experiencing more, and truly living?

Here are a few thoughts and concrete tips I’d like to share with you this summer—for both mental and physical health.

☀️ Do’s and Don’ts – A Summer Without Body Shaming

❌ Don’ts – Things to Let Go Of:

Don’t try to force yourself into the “shape of your life” in just a few weeks. It causes more stress than joy.

Don’t believe you can only wear a bikini or shorts if your body looks a certain way.

Don’t train or eat in a way that prevents you from being spontaneous—especially on those rare sunny days.

Don’t skip meals to “make room” for indulgences. Your body needs nourishment and balance—not compensation.

✅ Do’s – Things to Embrace:

Make small, smart choices every day. Go for walks, bike to the beach, play with the kids, invite friends for a picnic and movement.

Eat everything—in moderation. Focus on food that keeps you full and satisfied, making it easier to enjoy treats without overeating.

Follow a workout routine you enjoy and that’s flexible. Combine home workouts with nature activities—walking, running, swimming.

Use your body in everyday life—mow the lawn, take things to the recycling center, help someone paint. That’s exercise too.

If you want to set goals—aim for performance or how you feel: more energy, better sleep, a stronger body. Not a “hotter” mirror reflection.

🎯 Ask Yourself: Is It Worth It?

Before you turn down a barbecue, an ice cream with the kids, or a lazy day in the hammock—ask yourself: is the sacrifice really worth it?

Many of us set unrealistic goals that are impossible to maintain. When we don’t meet them, it only leads to guilt, disappointment, and a sense of failure. And that chips away at our self-esteem.

Living too rigidly—especially during a season full of joy and togetherness—can end up doing more harm than good.

❤️ Remind Yourself of What Really Matters

You are worthy of love just as you are. Regardless of weight, shape, cellulite, or clothing size.

Finding a lifestyle that nurtures both body and soul is more important than chasing an ideal image. Your value isn’t in your abs or the number on the scale—it’s in how you feel, how you live, and how you treat yourself.

Life’s too short to always be fighting yourself. The most important things we have are our experiences, our relationships, and our health. Let go of the body pressure—and hold on tight to the joy of living.

You have the power to shape your own well-being. Use it wisely.